Thanksgiving
can be a stressful holiday, with the fattening stressful mix of intense
cooking, intense cleaning, visiting relatives and the hard push of the TV, only
the 32 days until Christmas, how do we make this holiday a day of blessed
sacred time? By following the Saints, Saint Mary in being present and in awe of
Jesus, and Saint Martha and being the hands and feet that prepare the feast out
of love for others, love for Christ.
1) Invite your family and friends and ask them to each bring a dish
for the meal that means something in their family tradition. Follow Christ's
advice to Saint Martha, "Don't be anxious." about making everything
perfect. Let guests participate in the preparations. Sharing recipes from their
history is part of the joy of creating and passing on tradition. It lets you be
both a gracious giver and receiver of the meal (a good moral lesson of the
holiday). If it is just your family, let each family member prepare one of the
things for the meal, even if it is crescent rolls or cranberry jelly in a can.
2) Prepare a parallel giving. Thanksgiving is about giving thanks.
Part of what we are thankful for, is our own posterity. Ergo, giving to make
someone else’s Thanksgiving memorable fits perfectly with celebrating this
great American Tradition. Check out your local food pantry program to donate
and let your little children bring the groceries in to the place. They will
shine with gratitude for the opportunity. If you have older children, ask if
you can help serve. Washing other peoples’ feet is a great way to demonstrate
to your family, we are called to serve first. It will also set the table for
your own meal, by making you fully grateful for the feast you are about to
receive.
3) Go to mass on Thanksgiving before you cut into the Turkey. You’ve
got at least 4 hours before the meal, the games aren’t until the afternoon and
tryptophans will send you into a food coma at some point in the afternoon.
Going to mass as a family to give thanks harkens back to the beginnings of this
tradition and our Liturgy of the Eucharist is a Thanksgiving meal every time.
It is the choosing of the better portion. What could be more appropriate?
4) Play ball. Our family has the annual turkey classic before dinner:
The Gorillas vs. the Wolves. Our oldest 4 children pride themselves in being
undefeated, while my husband and I plus the four younger eligible for play have
scored moral victories over the years with legendary tackles that were supposed
to be touch and passes that somehow displayed supernatural grace influenced the
outcome. God had to put that ball in my hand. There’s no way I should have
caught it. I know me. It makes for an annual tradition of bragging rights,
boasts, good humor and stories that will live long after we stop using the back
yard as a grid iron.
5) Count your blessings. At the dinner table, come with a notepad
(not a laptop), and record what each person is grateful for this year. The
thanks will flow along with the wine and the gravy. Then date the list, have
everyone sign it and mail it to yourself for next year to recall the blessings
of the past. In addition to providing everyone with the moment to consider what
all we have to be grateful for, you will have a permanent record of the memory.
(We put the score from the family turkey football classic on that page too).
Lastly,
when the pie has been served, when all of the business of the Holiday has
passed, recognize that we live in a blessed land where every year, we stop. We
gather with family and friends. We feast and we give thanks to God for all we
receive, for all of these gifts that so often, we take for granted. Thank God
for this gift of our home. Say Grace after meal to remember, God is good. God
is Great. God is Love. Thank God. Thank God. Thank God.
1 comment:
I have so much to be thankful for this year-Dan and Anna's wedding is at the top of my list- along with a visit - although brief with all the Marylanders this summer. I am thankful for Hospice being an integral part of our lives. They helped Dad and me when I did not think I could do one more day as a care-giver. The staff has truly been a tremendous blessing to Dad and me. I am thankful for relatives-near and far away, for our dear neighbors and friends, and for all who traveled to celebrate with us last summer. All is grace.
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